Role-Play Sex
“We all have fantasies,” says sex expert Lora Somoza. “If you’re in a committed relationship and you find yourself dreaming about a hot cop with handcuffs, don’t be shy [about asking] your guy to play it out.” Role playing allows you both to have the thrill of sleeping with different people without, well, actually sleeping with other people, so it just might be the key to keeping monogamy hot. “If you’re not sure where to begin, try ‘pretending you don’t know each other’ sex,” suggests Somoza. It will give you the freedom to take on a new personality and do things you wouldn’t normally do—but always wanted to
Sex Somewhere Splurge-y
Ever notice how staying in a fancy-pants hotel puts you in the mood like nothing else? Sex expert Tracey Cox explains why: “Few of us are cashed up enough to experience luxury every day, so when we’re staying at a flashy hotel, it’s pretty exciting,” she says. Even if you can’t afford a five-star vacation, upgrade just one night of your next trip to a swanky hotel, or book a night at a posh place in your city for a sexy change of scenery at home.
Sex in a Public Place
The idea of getting caught in the act can be kind of exciting, but that doesn’t mean you have to be an exhibitionist to enjoy it. “Try finding an abandoned parking lot or sitting in the last row at the movies and guiding his hand somewhere naughty,” says Somoza. Even if you have to rush home to really get down to action, you’ll be so revved up by then that the sex will be amazing.
Sex on the Beach
Sun. Crashing waves. Hot guy. Enough said. If there’s a drink named after it, it has to be good, right? Expand your idea of sex on the beach beyond the sand to include lounge chairs, your hotel balcony or even under water.
Forbidden Sex
“If the best-selling book 50 Shades of Grey tells us anything, it’s that women like a little kink,” says Somoza. So regardless of who wears the pants in the relationship, decide who’s going to wear the restraints in the bedroom. “Maybe you want your guy to tie you up and do dirty things to you,” she says. But if you’d rather show him who’s boss, let him know he’s going to be your sex slave for the night and tell him the only rule is that he can’t say no (and, um, why would he want to?).
Bathroom Sex
The most underrated room to have sex in is your bathroom. No joke. “This is why God created bathroom counters,” says Somoza. “Thanks to the mirrors, your guy gets to watch all of the action, which makes it even hotter.” Other options? “Use the tub or the toilet to prop yourself into position,” suggests sex educator Jamye Waxman, M.Ed. You can even light candles and create some sexy steam from the shower to add extra atmosphere.
Makeup Sex
You know when you’re mad at him but also find him incredibly attractive? When you really want to rip off his clothes but also want to resist because you think you should teach him a lesson? Don’t resist. “Makeup sex is hot, steamy and loaded with all the emotion you just went through,” says Somoza. Whether you’re exes getting back together or just a couple reuniting after a fight, makeup sex has a certain electric charge we rarely feel in normal circumstances.
Lazy Sex
Sex doesn’t always have to be a WWF throwdown in the bedroom. The next time you’re sleeping in on a weekend, casually remove all your clothes and then snuggle up to your man so he can feel your naked body. Since men have extra-high testosterone levels in the morning, he’s practically guaranteed to be down for the action. Having that type of relaxed, low-maintenance sex is great for de-stressing and keeping you connected.
Loud Sex
You know all those four-letter words you’re too afraid to say? At least once, let yourself get so totally into it that you use them. All. Share a bottle of wine and psych yourself up to do things you’d never do—like telling him to spank you or demanding he give you an orgasm (while telling him how in explicit detail). Instead of lying on your back during oral, be bold and straddle him instead. And don’t be shy to make noise—in fact, make an effort to be even louder than usual (it will only increase the physical sensation).
Sex Somewhere Famous
“Having sex in, near or looking at a national landmark turns an amazing experience into an extraordinary one,” says Cox. “You’re still not truly convinced you’re there, so everything seems surreal.” So do it on your hotel balcony overlooking the Hollywood sign, hook up in a quiet stairwell of the Louvre or get busy on your hike to the Grand Canyon. You will never forget it.